Violence Against Women

Its sad the society that we live in. Yesterday and the whole weekend social media all talking about the Rosie Motene incident. What really broke my heart were all the comments that most women where making. Then there was the in studio interview with the alleged perpetrator. Man says on national radio "I know better that you can't hit a woman in club. Hehe! That's royal bull, he did not says does not hit woman he said he does not hit them in public. Its Sad world we live in.

During my lunch break I was standing next to a woman with a blue eye, one lady says to her that looks painful. She said her eye was not painful and the lady said " O bo omo dirileng" ( what did you do to him). She did not respond, the lady said to her next time you should shield your face, one does not look face up in violent situation. She responded to say she did not expect to be hit and it was her first time begin hit. This conversation got me thinking, that we live in society that expects violence against women that woman tell other woman how to "deal" with the situation. Where man can go on national radio and say I hit woman just not in public.

Woman who are insensitive to woman in abusive or violent situations like those who were mocking Rosie, think well I get punched and slapped all the time who is she that one punch in the face lends her in the front page of newspaper and trending on social media. Violence is quite common. You hear woman cheering on a man beating his wife or partner :mmetse o tla baka ( Teach her a lesson). Its sad that we woman don't rally
together in these issues how to we expect the men to support us .


All though the 16 Days raise lot of awareness let us individual start by talking about the issues and addressing it. Personally am all talked out. Action and education are what is needed. The Police are getting there is terms on attending to reports and sensitivity towards victims.

I STILL RISE

 This poem describes just how I feel!

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may tread me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou

 

I still rise indeed thank u Maya

Aging Gracefully

I have never considered my self to be vain. Well I find vanity very unattrative and rather irritating. When my 21st birthday came I was very excited finally I was 21 I could own land in my home country, I could get married without parental consent, I was no longer a minor etc. Twenty one was dizzy year. Then all of sudden I was going on to 22. Then I got scared I was getting old. In an attempt to stay younger I would celebrate 21 year years in row. Prior to this I had no problem disclosing my age. Now when someone would as how old I am I would ask why they want to know, woman do don't reveal that their age and so on. The I was 25 well was go gear I mean quarter of century, some ages i did not like  26 nothing cool about that worse still 27.

28 was about hectic I lost my grandmother a month into my 28 year. Well her passing away was quite sudden one moment we were having breakfast and chatting, then she was not feeling well. After a brief visit to the clinic she was home sleeping then next we check on her she was gone. The came the funeral arrangements etc. Then it was all a blur. I spent the whole year or most of it grieving cause I realized how I lost so many people in my life but had never really taken time to grieve and acknowledge the loss. Then I realized age was just a part of me and who I am. Then I made pace with my age and getting older. 29 has been a great year, what I love about getting older is the comfort I have in my own skin.  I know what I want and love my life.

As child growing up I was never one to fit so as adult I have intention of changing. Am where I want to be in life. Where I am is a result of my choices which i have made and do not regret. So am not going apologetic for my life or my circumstances

 Six days to go until my 30 birthday am so excited, why because I finally get this aging thing, loving it and embracing it.

God is wonderful he has kept me for 30 years, lavished me with love and blessing, given me a great family and wonderful friends am blessed and highly favored indeed.

Count Down To 0

Wow
Its almost here! Well am not to sure how I feel. When I was younger 30 year old people were very old. Now am almost there but I feel, very young. Am just planing the events to celebrate 30 birthday. any suggestion?

Mission

So after trying really hard to ignore my love for all things Taiwan and the country  its self. Now am past my denial, I have accepted that I really love Taiwan and would like to live there. So the only way to go live in Taiwan is to study there. So now am documenting my journey to apply for Master scholarships so I can go back. Here goes.

Nantau

My family and I at Chung Tai temple

Chung Tai temple and museum

Temple entrance

my friendly neighbours

My free vegetarian meal

Mama Sue at Sun Moon lake

Dad, mum and Ryan

Temple of  wisdom

Jiji train station

Steam train

My host family originally from Nantou county, so we went 'home' for the weekend. So that I could meet the rest of the family, for fathers day and to travel in the country side. Our home town is Cautan, Nantau is the only land locked county in Taiwan and the bread basket of the coury. I got a royal welcome at home and instantly felt at home. 

My family is comprised of Father Lung Po, mother Suewan Lai, grand father aka Yeye, brother James he is married to Yatin and Eric who is married to and the family prince Ryan their son. Oh I forgot ET the 18 year lod dog.Mama Sue is a chief so my welcome dinner looked good and tasted great. The following moring we went on a young road trip arounds the county. 

Our first stop was Puli at Chung Tai temple and museum, unforyunatley there was a private ceremony going on so we were not able to go past the gate. The temple looked very beautiful, I was disapointed that I could not go inside. The site is very impressive  Budist spectacle, there is a temple, museum, school (from elemetry to high school) and hospital. We were given free vegetarian lunch in the temple garden. 

The next stop was Sun Moon Lake, wow the lake is breath taking and its has magnificant temple surrounding it. The temple of knowledge and power were very beautiful. The lake has destiny island, the is a shrine in the island. We also went to the Peacock santury Ryans Favourite place at the lake. I was amazed to see hite peacock. 
We then went to Sun Moon lake, to sea the lake and the beautifu temple surrounding the lake. I also got to taste the famous black tea. I really liked the black tea so i bought a lot to take home.
Jiji was our next destination there I got to see the olderst railway station in the country and suprisingly its still operational. We also went to Mingchin Academy a school olser thean ROC its was established in 1883 AD. It was a beautiful school that was established by Emperor Gaungsyu. 

We then went tome to have father day cake to celebrate father's day that had past during the week. 

first 24 hours in Taiwan

Well the Hong Hong airport got me realy excited about Taiwan. Since I kept on meeting more participants as we were boarding the plane, the dream was becoming real. Upon laning those of us who had no visa had to go process our langing visa, ROC ( Republic of Chaina) Taiwan is reaaly organised they were people to direct us to laning visa office they had all our details and paid for our visa the process took less thn 5 minutes.
 After that we we to the lobby got ur local cellphones with credit. My host was waiting for me in another airport so i had to catch a bus to  the other airport an hour away. Lucy aka Apple to us to the bus stop and we were one step closer to our host family.
Since the airport was the last stop I did not fear getting off at the last stop. Yating ( my host) came to pick me at the airport and we caught the metro home. We my fast impressio of Taipei is that its fast pased and has a vibrant energy. After supper my hosts and I agreed to vist their parents at Nantou county for the weekend. We wld leave saturday afternoon when James fets back from work.

I was so excited I woke up at 05:30 I had not even set the arlam. After breakfast Yating showed me around the neighbourhood and her work palace, she is a teacer at the privete girls school. Since her school is near National Chiang Kai-Shek Memorial so we went there. Kai-Shek was the first President of ROC. Well i got to see a group yaoa session like i have seen on tv so i got exited. We the memorial is beautiful its just amazing as the men it represents. I do not know an former president with more than awards of courage as he does. President Chiang as he is caaled here was very learned and deplomatic in his dealings with other countries.

At President Chiang Kai-Shen memorial with Japanese tourists

President Chiand and  his elegant and very beautiful Madame Mao Fu-mei

Yatin's work place

Malawai gave President the order of the Lion

Order of the Lion

Since we are in the ghost month in the chinese calander there is got day celebrated on the 14 August.  At Taipei station the Grand central station of Taipei we found a crime prevention campaign under way. The police here are very friendly. The we started a 1 hour trip on the high speed train